Babies cry. It seems that that’s all they do, isn’t it? Cry when they’re hungry, cry when they feel tired, sick or moody. But there are some tricks you can do to make your baby stop crying.
Your baby can cry for various reasons: fatigue, dirty diaper, he/she is hungry, the room he/she is in is noisy or there’s a lot of activities going on or perhaps the baby is colicky. It can be multiple answers, but you have to narrow them down one by one so you can reach the best conclusion and be able to help him/her.
Listen to what your baby tells you when he’s crying
You have to see whether your baby changes his mood very often, and when he does – why? Is it because of environment changes, the time of the day? It’s very self-explanatory that he can react differently to different situations. It’s been said that they usually send us, the parents, signals that we oversee sometimes. Next time, check if you have too many people in one room or if there’s too much noise going on, which can easily disturb your child.
Sure, soon enough, you will notice a tiny distinctive cry your baby “performs” when he is hungry or just tired: look for the pitch and intensity of the cry. Other facial gestures can give him away as well: fists curled up, rubbing eyes, eyes almost shut, arched back. It is just a bit harder to notice them at the beginning, when you’re all into getting used to the new parenting situation.
Understand that your child feels everything
You can make your baby cry without even knowing it. Are you distracted, stressed, thinking of something else? Are you going through a breakdown? It goes without saying that you can’t soothe and nurture your baby as well as you’d do it if you were relaxed and completely there, present. If that’s the case, try to ask for support and communicate with your partner to get the best out of you, and solve your problems for your baby’s sake – especially.
Everybody has feelings, you baby included. He experiences the sadness, happiness, joy and anger we are all going through. That is why, whenever you’re going through one of these emotions, he picks it up and immediately goes in the same mood. He simply adapts.
Seek for comfort, a moment of respiro, a time-out for yourself – even if it’s for only a few minutes, don’t welcome your baby with a bad mood – or if you have somebody to look for your baby, go on a holiday to Blackpool, maybe. No matter how hard you’re pretending, he is a human being who knows you better than you can imagine.
Communicate with your baby
More than a parent, learn to be a friend of your baby’s right from his early months. He is already attached to you forever, but make sure he won’t become so dependent of you that, in time, it will be difficult for you to let him discover the world in his own way. This is not as serious as it sounds if you identify it early. Attachment problems are bond to happen, but don’t be too extreme.
If you learn how to talk with your child, you’ll also understand easier why is he crying and you’ll be freer to play a Go wild casino tournament. A colicky baby, for instance, will have a high pitched, frantic and sudden cry, showing signs of a stiff body with bent legs. Look for the signs, they’ll tell them exactly what the most appropriate solution is.
The professional alternative
Now, yes, there are other alternatives to consider if all of these aforementioned ones fail to work. If you tried to read your baby’s body and crying sound styles, if you managed to narrow down all the possible options why he is feeling unwell, and only after you took out the probability of you being too stressed out and that your baby adopted your mood, then it is perhaps time to seek for professional help. An unresponsive, often upset child, needs help. Go to your pediatrician and he/she will recommend you a child development specialist – if the worse comes to worst.
Classes in parenting, coaching and parenting education are always there to help you with support and advice. You can also consider to go to a support session, a group run by parents who are going through the same thing as you. You’ll see, soon, all your problems will go away, your baby will ready to drive the family car.